not the first time allergy sufferers have to take a punishment, just because of other peoples intoleranz and laziness

actually, when we were in our very hostile 504 meeting last year, the nurse said I was "over the top" and that my ds doesn't want to be "singled out" etc.  She said she knows this because when she tried to talk to him about the 504, he was embarrassed. 
I said yeah, because YOU embarrassed him by telling him it was "babyish" and while OTHER STUDENTS WERE PRESENT!   

But now that we all know how that school is run and how the staff behaves, even if Mfamom had said something the nurse would have LIED and claimed that son XX was making the whole thing up.

There is a special place in h3ll for people like that nurse.

MFAmom, wow from me too.  I don't know what to say.  WOW

Wow mfamom, you have a lot more self restraint than I do!! Ya, just wow. 

Makes me think that people like THAT in the "real world" are why laws like ADA were written.   

yes, the nurse is an insensitive B!  she has called him o ut before.  she's very abrasive, thinks she's getting them ready for the "real" world!  This happened before the food challenge.  In fact, this situation is what prompted my ds to go through with the challenge.  He was totally fed up with dealing with nonsense like this.

When he was in the nurse office first day of 9th grade, he dropped off his epi pen and inhaler to her.  she said OH you're the famous XX!  good.  tell your mom to call me about your 504 plan.  Its very babyish and won't fly here at XX high school. 

I am concerned that that this nurse makes insensitive statements.  In another thread you mentioned that your son passed some food challenges, and I do have concerns what the nurse might say to him about that.

It must be very emotional and take a lot of adjusting to learn you are not allergic to what you always considered dangerous.  I just do not picture this nurse making it easier for him with her statements.

And the school environment seems slightly overwhelming in general.

Are your family and doctors thinking of notifying the school right away or letting him adjust, maybe?  I think he still was not completely allergen free anyway.  Just concerned, will delete if you want.

Again, will delete this whole post if you want. 

Sounds like my graduating high school. What is it they are doing for their students? Rhetorical question. I'm fed up with the public school system (not teachers).

Quote from: Mfamom on January 08, 2014, 10:08:35 PM
you know, we went to a sophomore night at school tonight.  our school really pushes parents to let their kids problem solve/advocate for themselves.  the director of guidance must have said it 10 times tonight. 
The problem is that I continually see that is their answer....your ds should have (insert action).  I feel that is great and I'm on board right up to the time that my kid is disregarded/shut down by people of authority in the school.  Not the first time its happened.

As for the comment about bringing his own food, i did address that with the assist. principal and reminded him that comment doesn't fly with a classified student especially.  He is more friendly/helpful than some at school, but still he said that ds will need to do this soon at college etc.   They don't get it that they are preaching to us to let our kids fend for themselves, but in the same point, they are keeping them from successfully doing so.  does that make sense

If the principal is telling you that your son will have to bring his own food in college, he is completely wrong.  The colleges are required to provide allergen free meals for students with a documented food allergy.  Google the Lesley University Settlement.  It is all there.  I would be tempted to set the principal straight on that one.  Disability laws don`t just vanish just because a student started college.  The laws may be under different entities, but the college is still required to accomodate the student`s allergies.

Sometimes I'm surprised you are still at that school MFA. I know the Catholic HS is big $$, but I do wonder if they would be a bit more understanding and helpful versus the mentality at the public school. Is it worth exploring that option for Jr and Sr year perhaps?  And yes, I know it shouldn't be that way, but there have been so many other issues with that school that it makes me question their collective mentality towards the students there. It seems like the message they give out isn't entirely in line with what you or your family believe (versus some of your very sterotypical neighbors mentalities). I hope I'm making sense- I'm just speaking from experience living in your area versus here.

Well, I guess they won't mind having it there, then-- since it's school policy anyway.   

yeah, that was in his 504 plan previously, but at the hostile meeting they said they EXPECT their students to problem solve etc; therefore, not necessary to put it in there.

Mfamom affirming attempts at self advocacy is in my ds' 504.

I so feel your pain here.

Drives me NUTS that people seem to think that my DD's decision to not eat anything is "immature" since she SHOULD be able to somehow "make decisions for herself."

Well, um-- she did, it seems to me.     Risk:  my life.  Benefit:  gross-looking food of unknown or questionable safety?  Hmm-- lemme think.

Pound sand, YK?


My daughter is MORE than entitled to make her own decisions about food, and God HELP the person that leans on her for deciding "no, thank you, I'm not comfortable with this." 

Please tell your DS how proud you are of him for the way that he handled himself.  HE showed a great deal more maturity and responsibility than the so-called "adults" in charge of him here.