Home Ec

[Macabre]

Yes the suggestion that dd just go elsewhere seems a denial of FAPE.   

[yelloww]

Yeah, I think that your dd needs an exit strategy from this situation. What's the plan for next week if she's still in the class? Can you have her go to guidance until it is sorted out? Or even the nurse? Or even have her fake sick to the nurse for one day to get her out of there? 

[maeve]

Oh there's more. I got a call from the 504C on my cell phone at 4:24 p.m. today but I'd left my phone in the car and didn't see it until 4:40 or so.  He said that he had been given a list of the recipes that would be used in 7th grade class and that he's putting them in one document, and that he and the teacher were discussing would modifications/substitutions could be made to ensure DD's safety. I haven't called back yet. I have a headache (from this and pulling my ponytail too tight) and I want to discuss with DH and he's on the bus home right now.

Gee I need a drink. This is honestly the first time I have encountered a teacher so resistant.

[twinturbo]

The SD fire drill scramble begins. 

[CMdeux]

 

I would SO come over so that you and your DH could go pop out and have that drink, Maeve.   

I think that yellow is right-- you need a strategy to limit damage for your DD.  Kids are often so slow to realize that what just seems like, well-- a hard-a$$ teacher who is nitpicky...

is actually subtle bullying.  Saw this with the Harpy wrt to DD.  MAN, am I ever glad that I got her out-out-out of that class.

[maeve]

I haven't sent my missive to the school yet.  But it could still be scrambling because I did send an email yesterday just after my last request for the recipe list that stated "If Mrs. Teacher does not provide a list of the exact recipes that will be used in the class, I want DD removed from her class.  I have been concerned about Mrs. Teacher since August when she was unprepared to discuss specifics about the class and left behind her copy of DD's 504 in the conference room."  It was an impulsive email but it now seems prescient because I sent that before I knew of what had been going on in the classroom.  So it's possible, the teacher knew of that email before class today.  Let's just say that her actions have only hardened my position that DD be removed from her class.

CM, DH doesn't drink. I do have a bottle of Sancerre in the fridge and I may have to have a glass after I lay in supplies for the impending snow storm.

[Macabre]

The stress of stuff like this is so huge. It really takes a toll emotionally and physically I have found.

(((Hugs)))

[yelloww]

Maeve, will your allergist write up a medical note tomorrow for you to get her out? Then they can at least just follow the doctors orders.

[ajasfolks2]

I might also consider asking pediatrician for letter that addresses exclusion AND bullying of child . . . by her teacher.

Sheesh . . . I'm so sorry.

Enjoy the real snow.  The teacher's snow job ("I know all about food allergies") won't be nearly as impressive once you're done with her.   

[maeve]

Maeve, will your allergist write up a medical note tomorrow for you to get her out? Then they can at least just follow the doctors orders.

Got the note from the doctor's office but it's written to say that she's excluded from the cooking portion of the class.

I haven't sent off my missive yet but I did just send off an email to the 504C in response to his phone call. I told him I already had the recipes all in one document and that what I had requested repeatedly was a list of which recipes would be used. I attached my document that had the recipes neatly formatted as well.  I copied my DH and the teacher on the email.

[maeve]

OMG, they actually coughed up the list of recipes in response to the email I sent this morning.  This still doesn't address what to do about the teacher. I'll need to talk to DD after I pick her up at school.

[ajasfolks2]

They've waited so long that now they are in corner -- the ingredients have long since been purchased and the lesson plans made. 

ugh.

[maeve]

They've waited so long that now they are in corner -- the ingredients have long since been purchased and the lesson plans made. 

ugh.

This is a semester-long course. I would be very surprised if these were not the exact same recipes used in the first semester. Therefore, I cannot understand why this teacher could not provide this information at the beginning of the year. Oh yeah, I know why, she knows how to handle food allergies and wants to use her approach. She needs to realize that one child with allergies is not the same as another child with allergies. As the autism community says, if you've met one child with autism, you've met one child with autism. It's the same in the allergy community.

[CMdeux]

...which, er--  would be why this particular child has a 504 plan.

[maeve]

My reply to the email providing the list of recipes:
Mr. 504C,
Thank you for the information.  I'll look at it in conjunction with the list of jobs you provided the other day and will provide guidance on how DD can participate. We want to ensure her fullest participation possible, that she is not excluded, and that her safety is ensured without overtly exposing her allergy status to her peers who have no need to know and without removing her unnecessarily from a lesson.
Maeve

The teacher was copied on the response.